We’ve reached the end of our 12 days!
If you’ve followed me on Instagram for a while it won’t surprise you to hear that I goofed up now and then while making the 12 Days of Sexmas videos. On the final day of our 12 days together, I’m gifting the internet a bit of fun and laughter with our full 12 Days blooper reel. I hope you laugh with me or even at me a bit!
What does a blooper reel have to do with sex?
Everything we learn, especially when we decide to add more meaning and connection to our lives, makes us just a bit more likely to bite our lip and say, “oops!” It’s true at home, at work, and in relationships, and it’s definitely true in our sexual development.
And it is so worth it!
It takes some courage to invest in our sexual health and relationships. It means exploring questions about the most intimate and vulnerable connection most of us experience, and I don’t know anyone who isn’t at least a little bit intimidated by that kind of vulnerability. One of the best parts of my work is being invited to be part of this kind of growth. You inspire me!
Embrace your bloopers
I didn’t get many if any of these videos right on the first take, and you won’t get everything exactly the way you envisioned it, either. The good news is, no one has a camera recording the work you’re doing in your relationship. Take all the time you need. Introduce the idea to your partner and give each other permission to stop, back up, reset and try another take.
It’s NORMAL to not get it right the first time, to feel awkward, to feel clumsy as you try on new conversations, new moves, new games, new positions, new toys and new ways to connect.
The key is to not give up. It’s to realize that everything worth pursuing takes effort and a willingness to step out of our comfort zones so we can move toward something better.
My personal top 5
We’ve covered a lot of territory this month! Here are my top five 12 DAYS OF SEXMAS takeaways:
- Start conversations about sex from a place of curiosity – about your bodies, your relationship, your expectations. Get curious!
- When it comes to sex, the only normal you need to think about is YOUR normal.
- Friends don’t let friends use KY Jelly (unless it’s for a craft night or for baby bows.)
- Still not ready to make cookies without that wooden spoon? Don’t worry about talking yourself into new behavior – this is the perfect chance to explore new ways of thinking.
- Growth comes with awkwardness. If it’s been a while since you’ve felt awkward with your partner, are you ready to grow together again? Let awkward become the new key to your sexual growth.
I chose this work because I can’t imagine a more satisfying way to spend my days than helping you become your own sexual expert. Social media has its downsides but I learn from you every time we interact and I’m so grateful you’re on the journey with me!
Thank you for sharing your wins with me. Thank you for engaging in the conversations and asking the questions. Thank you for sharing KBH with your friends and community. This community is better because you’re a part of it!
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